If you are a parent or guardian of a child whose parent was just arrested, it is important that you explain what happened to them in the right way. Regardless of how you feel about the situation in the moment, what you say can have a long lasting impact on the child’s life. Your goal should be to talk to the child in a way and say the things that while true, benefit the child the most for the long term.
Calm Child’s Fears
What the child may be the most afraid of are things like is there parent going to be hurt while in custody. The child is most likely also experiencing fear of separation from the parent. If the child is not in the custody of a trusted relative, but in the custody of the state, they may also be afraid for their own safety. It is important to speak calmly and do your best to reassure the child that both their parent and they themselves will be safe.
It is very important that you strive to earn the child’s trust as soon as possible. Talk calmly, and slowly yet cheerfully and reassuringly. Be careful not to lie to the child or say things you know they want to hear that are not true. But within that real be as reassuring and comforting as possible.
Teach Child Appropriate Respect
What I mean by this is it will not benefit the child to teach them disrespect for authority or law enforcement officers. If the grow up angry and thinking badly of these things statistics show that they are more likely to get into trouble when they are older themselves. If a police officer was rough on the parent, or behaved badly, explaining to the child that yes the police man should not have done that, but most police officers are not like that will help the child to not blame all officers or all authority.
Most often the officer may not have been excessive, but it may have looked that way to the child. In this case explaining this to the child will also be helpful. Societies can not exist without police officers. If we did not have them there would be chaos and anarchy and we would all be much less safe. It is important to help the child keep that perspective as well.
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You may want to also check out our short post on “How To Explain A Parent’s Arrest To A Child” in that link!